To Get Your Ex Back Play the Waiting Game
Maybe it was a long simmering argument or maybe a sudden flash of anger. How ever it happened you and your partner have split. And you are determined to get your ex back.
Because you feel so strongly about the rightness of your relationship you may be tempted to immediately contact your ex. You want to phone your ex at home or at work. You want to show up in a place where you know he or she is likely to be. You want to initiate contact and then force your ex to listen to reason.
If you succumb to this temptation to contact your ex chances are you will only drive your former partner even further away. Hard as it may be for you to do, you have to be patient, you have to wait.
The Split Happened for a Reason
There is a reason, or more than one, that you and ex have parted ways. This may all seem like a mistake to you but if you contact your ex now and demand to be heard you will only make the situation worse.
Difficult as it may be, you have to wait.
Only you can decide how long to wait before making contact with your ex. The circumstances of the break up can help you make the best decision.
If the problems that caused the split were long simmering, wait longer. If there was shouting, recriminations, anger at the time of the split, wait even longer.
Think about the kind of person your ex is and how long it may take him or her to cool off and calm down. When you are sure you know how long that period might be, double the time.
While You Wait, Look To Yourself
How ever long you decide to wait, use the time wisely. Again, think about the reasons for your break up. Blame can certainly be laid at the door of both you and your partner but you can only control your own actions.
Don’t beat up on yourself but do look at the role you played in the break up. You need to understand your own faults and mistakes. When the time is right and you are talking to your ex about reunion you have to be able to say that you are aware of these problems and are really trying to make corrections.
Patience is key at this early stage. Practice self-control, don’t rush things and work to improve yourself and you have a great chance of not only getting your ex back but becoming a better person as well.
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